Healthy ways to cope with stress
When we take a holistic view of lifestyle stress management there are many ways forward. Here are my top tips for taking control of your stress.
Step 1: Acknowledgement
The first step is to acknowledge why you are experiencing stress and review it in perspective.
There are only 3 levels of concern in the Universe.
- The God level, things only God (or whatever your belief) can control, the weather, time, earthquakes and other natural disasters etc
- Other People level, things that happen to others, what they do, say and how they behave.
- You: things that happen to you and what you say, do, behave and think
You ONLY need to concern yourself with one area. YOU.
Step 2: Boundaries
The second step is to asses your values and act with integrity and respect for yourself.
Once you are certain of the core beliefs you have you can begin to draw some boundary lines around your life. What you will stand for and what you won’t. How you treat yourself and how you allow others to treat you.
You must have a goal which is in alignment with who you are and who you are meant to me. We all have a mission in life. We all have unique gifts and skills. And these are what we are meant to be doing.
Step 3: Listen to your own Truth
Be on your own Ladder
An apple can only ever be an apple, a butterfly can only ever be a butterfly, you are here to do something here in this time and place that only you know the answer of what that is.
When you ignore the subtle signs and messages which tell you what you are meant to be doing. Over time this becomes a slow but steady unconscious level stress. It builds and builds like a pressure cooker. It may take years or even decades but a deterioration in mental or physical health is likely. On a soul level you know you are not acting with integrity to your souls calling and it is slowly eating away at you.
For 12 years I went after the career/money and quitting to be a full time stay at home mum was the best decision I’d ever made. Starting a fresh and choosing a path in alignment with my soul has lifted a 25 year depression and everyday I am happier than I’ve ever been.
I am fully aware not many people have the luxury of such a radical change. There is always a way. There is always a choice. It may not be easy at first. It will require hard work. Having said that short term hard work for long term health and happiness is the route for me.
Step 4: Support
Reach out for help. Say No
Learning to Manage your Time Well
Learning to effectively manage your time and the actions you do.
Learning to create effective goals and breaking them down into actionable tasks
Having the support in place to keep you on track
- You can have a side hustle while working full time.
- You can live within your means
- You can reevaluate your needs, wants and desires.
Do you need a flashy lifestyle if you can’t afford it?
And by afford it, in terms not just of money but time, life and health (mental and physical)
Our most precious resource is time. How much value is staying up to date with Love Island really bringing you?
If and when you get to 90 and you are looking back on your life, what will you say to your younger self? I’m glad I spent all those evenings bingeing on Netflix?
Listen to the stress you feel. It is telling you things in your life aren’t in align with who you need to be.
Delegate tasks you hate, quit things that don’t serve you.
Release as much stress from your life as possible.
Remember to create and maintain the boundaries and focus on you. Not in a selfish way in a self care way, then you will be able to help others more.
Step 5: Help Others
We are in this together, when you are fully aligned and less stressed you can see and help those around you better.
Stress is like a fog we swim in. We can’t really connect with others, we can’t see, feel or share their pain when we are so wrapped up in our own.
You can be a better human and make a massive difference in the world. Be remembered by your nearest and dearest as a positive beacon in their lives. You will have no idea how many people’s lives you touch but you can make a difference.
In closing my top tips to take charge of your stress,
- Create Boundaries,
- Be on your own Ladder,
- Manage your Time Well,
- Serve Others.